We have been talking about the insidious negative impact of drama on civility and interpersonal harmony. Many of you recently shared Thanksgiving dinner with family and friends with whom, due to Covid, you may not have seen in person for
Our “stories” lead to drama because, while they were prompted by actual facts, they become blended with our prejudices, fears, slights, and wounds from the past. They stir up feelings that rile us up and for which we blame whoever
Drama occurs when you turn some small slight or problem into something big and bad! And you may be doing this all of the time. Two of the most important skills you can master in life are learning to differentiate
We don’t always like the feedback life is providing but we always need it. Going below the line is natural but staying there is problematic. When we are below the line we aren’t open to learning and so are resistant
You are “below the line” when you are turning a deaf ear to the feedback life is sending your way and, instead, are insisting that you are right and don’t need to change. Some people are committed to living below
It might sound simple but constructive change rarely happens without a plan. The difference between a wish and an accomplishment is the plan. Hopefully, the last few posts that discuss thriving and taking radical responsibility for your life have prompted
I can’t tell you how many times I have heard people receive feedback on things others want them to change and respond by saying, “Oh, I have known that for years!” Shame on you! How is it that you can
Long ago I was taught the interconnection between our beliefs, our attitudes, and our behavior. Beliefs are mental. We all have a set of beliefs about what is important and how things work. Many of our beliefs are unexamined hence they
I began my career as a coach over 25 years ago. The concept of a corporate coach was brand new. Now coaches come from every background under the sun. Some came up through human resources. Others were executives who ran
Robert Sutton’s book, The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn’t, points to a second critical role for a coach. People, even bright and talented ones, frequently do really stupid things that are shipwrecking their