The Power of “Being Seen” and Embracing Vulnerability

Today, distractions are endless, and our everyday connections can feel superficial. Collectively, there’s a societal preoccupation with “looking good,” especially through the idealized glamour of photo filters and social media.

But the yearning to be seen and understood for who we really are is a fundamental human desire. This quest for authenticity and connection was the focal point of our most recent Stronghold call. During the session, we explored the profound impact of being vulnerable and sharing our true selves. We all came away with a few key insights from this discussion and shared how embracing authenticity can lead to deeper, more meaningful connections.

A Story of Seeing and Being Seen

I shared a personal story to illustrate the importance of truly seeing others. A while ago I joined a small group at my church, which I usually steer around because of past disappointments. 

During this meeting, the group’s discussion centered around a sermon from Luke 7:11-7, describing how Jesus entered a town and encountered a funeral procession for a widow’s only son. 

Soon afterward, Jesus went to a town called Nain, and his disciples and a large crowd went along with him. As he approached the town gate, a dead person was being carried out—the only son of his mother, and she was a widow. And a large crowd from the town was with her. When the Lord saw her, his heart went out to her and he said, “Don’t cry.”

Now the Bible says Jesus saw her. He didn’t just notice her; he saw her pain, her need, her struggle, and her agony. Jesus empathized with her situation and was moved with compassion, and performed a miracle and brought her son back to life.

During this small group discussion, I asked, “Who wants to be seen?” Nobody volunteered or wanted to be seen. It was disheartening to witness a group of people who failed to grasp the value of genuine connection, despite having been together for years.

The Challenge of Vulnerability

While it’s understandable to protect certain aspects of ourselves, the challenge lies in gradually peeling away the layers and exposing more of our true selves. The more we are willing to take off parts of the metaphorical leotard, the more satisfying and fulfilling our connections will be.

Here are a few ideas to take the next step:

1. Create a Safe Environment for Authenticity: Whether in professional settings, social circles, or personal relationships, strive to create environments where people feel safe to be themselves. Encourage open dialogue, active listening, and non-judgmental support.
2. Practice Vulnerability: Start small by sharing aspects of yourself that you typically keep hidden. It could be your thoughts, feelings, or experiences. As you become more comfortable, gradually reveal more of your true self.
3. See Others: Make a conscious effort to truly see and understand the people around you. Look beyond the surface and recognize their struggles, needs, and aspirations. Show empathy and compassion in your interactions.
4. Foster Authentic Connections: Seek out and nurture relationships where authenticity is valued. Surround yourself with individuals who appreciate and accept you for who you are, and reciprocate by being genuinely present for them.

Embrace the Journey

The journey towards authenticity and vulnerability is not without its challenges, but it is immensely rewarding. By embracing our true selves and allowing others to see us for who we are, we cultivate deeper, richer connections. 

And human connection is one of the cornerstones that makes life so amazing and meaningful.

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